The Ultimate Beauty Hack

I am not naïve. I cannot be naïve.

I was born in Brazil and even though I had a loving and caring childhood it was a childhood filled with fear. A fear that was not mine, a fear that was learnt.

I spent my childhood and most of my adult life under a Dictatorship.

I went to university under the Dictatorship whereby you were not allowed to read or discuss anything that hadn’t been previously approved by the political police, and they would only approve subjects they understood, in short what we were allowed to read or discuss was very little.

In those days there was a lot of fear and a tangible lack of freedom.

Freedom was not our right; it was something we hoped for.

When the Dictatorship was finally over the country plunged into one of the worst recessions of its history. So, then stress was added on to the fear of not being able to make ends meet at the end of the month. And because the whole country was experiencing the same level of stress it became the norm.

Stress became a natural part of my daily routine.

However, even amongst all the stress, fear and uncertainty there were a lot of good things happening as well. My problem was that my focus was on the stress and the fear. Nothing else mattered. Until one day I went to an exhibition of the Brazilian painter Tarcila do Amaral and to my surprise I was incredibly moved by the beauty of her work. I left the exhibition feeling lighter as if the heaviness of stress and fear that I had been carrying for so long was lifted.

The heaviness of Stress and Fear were lifted by the lightness of Beauty.

Years later, a job offer took me to Angola, West coast of Africa.  I lived there during the last years of the Civil War and even though there was a lot stress and fear there was also a lot of beauty in the country and its people.

I lived in Angola for 6 years. 6 years that changed my life. 6 years that taught me that even though in amongst all the devastation and poverty there was also beauty in kindness, friendship and companionship.

So, I am not naïve, I cannot be naïve. I cannot ignore the ugliness nor the beauty that surrounds me. I chose to find balance between them.

Balance is the key to success.

Pay attention to where your focus is. If you focus too much on stress, that can cause anxiety, a lack of confidence, self-doubt and other negative emotions.

If you focus too much on the negative, if you feel you have no control over your emotions and if you can’t take action, then you get stuck.

Find your balance.

Life happens in many ways and forms.

When Life becomes challenging remember that there is always beauty whatever beauty means to you.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

When Life gets too much, stop, look around you and find whatever it is that gives you pleasure, satisfaction, pride and joy.

When Life becomes challenging, look around and find whatever it is that makes your heart sing, that puts a smile on your face, that makes you feel calm and relaxed.

Then remember what it feels like when you see your Beauty and when things in your Life happen, perhaps not according to plan, stop and think of the importance of seeing Beauty.


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Regina Brancato-Dunderdale is a Hypnotherapy, Time Line Therapy® NLP Coach. To work with her, visit her website or email her at You can also check out her Trove Guide page here.